Friday, April 27, 2007

Are You an Online Christian Dating

The trend of online dating has increased over the years, and as a consequence there is a large number of Christian dating sites have come up over the last few years.



When you use a Christian Dating sites you should be aware of the potential dangers. Its important to note that most dating sites strive to maintain level of skill in protecting your privacy, and safety.



Christian Internet dating is not much different from other online dating services, the only exception is the people who are using Christian Internet dating sites already have a common belief---God.



The opportunity to meet other Christian through dating services in your community or even from all parts of the country, and from other countries. You'll not only have the opportunity to meet and date other Christians, you are more likely to end up in a strong, Godly marriage.



Obviously meeting a future partner is important, keep in mind is that dating is essential, but it also only a small part of your total life.



An important thing is the knowledge of the fact that every site proclaiming to be a Christian dating site is not necessarily a true Christian site or being run by a religious group.



"Have faith," and you might find the ideal person to share your religious beliefs and your views on humanity on a Christian dating site.



Online Christian dating is an excellent method of finding a companion who shares your religious beliefs and is committed to lead your kind of life. Online Christian dating is a great way to find others who share specific beliefs, morals, and values. So, to find someone, with same the beliefs as you do, it only goes to reason to visit Christian dating sites.



See what Christian online dating can offer.



A major attractions to a Christian Singles dating service is that widens your potential to a much larger 'pool' of people to build relationships with. Find someone that matches what your looking for without having to compromise too much. With the concept of online dating catching up fast, its becoming common to find it much easier to meet and know new people.



People who are searching for love via a Christian online dating are confident they will find someone who is sincere and see a Christian Singles dating site as an easy-to-follow roadmap to help you find God's perfect partner.

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Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Finding the Right Partner for a Lasting Relationship

If you want to find the love of your life, make sure you know what you are looking for. If you do not know, you can end up settling for whoever comes along. Make list of the most important qualities in an "ideal person" you would like - for example sense of humor, honesty, and so on. Use this list as your guide when choosing a partner - the closer the person matches your "ideal man or woman" the better chance you have of finding the right one.

Of course, you do need to realize that there is no such thing as an "ideal person". This means you'll have to compromise on minor things, for example hair color, but it is not a good idea to compromise on major issues. For instance, if you don't want children, don't date a person who wants a family or has children. Bear in mind that your "ideal man or woman" is searching for their "ideal person" too. Therefore, if you want someone who is athletic, you must get into shape, because athletes like their partners to be in good physical condition as well.

Once you've found your perfect partner, take at least several months or a year to really get to know him or her inside and out. If you can't picture yourself with this person in 20 or 30 years, then he or she is not the right person for you. It is important that you and your partner are compatible in all areas. This means having common interests and principles. You can't spend your entire life with someone who doesn't understand you.

Of course, no-one has a perfect relationship, and every relationship is different. So, don't compare your relationship to anyone else's - like your friend's or parent's relationship. Be yourself from the start of a relationship, create and develop the emotional aspect of your relationship, not just physical and work on your relationship every single day in every way possible. This way you and your partner will be able to enjoy a loving and lasting relationship.

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Friday, April 20, 2007

Follow This Relationship Advice To Find Happiness Together

Love is in the air when it comes to programming on television, articles in the magazines that we read, and the radio shows that we listen to; it seems that everywhere we turn talk is focused on ill-fated couples and the secrets to make a relationship last. But when it comes to the true ideals on which happy unions are based, there is some relationship advice that bears following.

First and foremost, as any happy couple will tell you, communication is the key to success in a relationship. That is why – as is so often the case – relationship advice will focus on the best ways to communicate with each other. So many times, couples come into a relationship with a whole set of baggage brought from their upbringing as children or from previous relationships. What defines communication for one partner may not even scratch the surface for another. Many couples will often turn to professional counseling in order to follow this relationship advice; learning how to redefine communication and meet each other's needs so that each person feels respected and heard.

As trust is also such an essential ingredient in happy partnerships, you will often hear relationship advice focused on blazing new trails of trust in your relationship. Even if there has been no infidelity in your own relationship, some partners will bring past betrayals with them into this new environment. Or perhaps, a lack of trust has more to do with a partner's own insecurity than the trustworthiness of their partner. In any case, a lack of trust almost always spells disaster to a relationship. It is essential, therefore, to follow this relationship advice to find mutual trust and respect in your partnership – such respect and trust will invariably pay off in security and happiness.

In terms of relationship advice, experts also agree that time spent with each other equates to unbreakable bonds of friendship. And therein lays the secret to a great relationship – friendship. Physical intimacy is great and an important component in any relationship but without friendship – deep and abiding friendship – the relationship will most likely not survive. Spend time together – plenty of quality alone time – and get to know each other over and over again; that is the greatest relationship advice that you will ever receive.

Relationship advice can be found on practically every corner. But what truly matters – and what will translate to success and happiness in your own relationship - are the things that are important to you as individuals and as a couple.

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Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Blind Date Surviving Tips

Don't get furious if someday you find your friends and family are trying to set a blind date for you. Don't take it personal! It is not an insult to either your intelligent nor to your incapability to find a date yourself. Instead take is as a genuine consent and a sign that you've been a bachelor too long.

Either you were gay or you've decided to be a bachelor by choice, there is no reason why you should be angry at that idea. Blind date has become common thing following the rise of online dating industry and has gained its popularity as one of the quickest way to find a date after speed dating.

If you decided to have a blind date, here some tips for not only surviving a blind date but also find women of your dream.

Please always remember first blind date should not be a pressure at all. Take it easy and consider it as a night out with friend and don't put too much hope to find that she is exactly a perfect woman of your dream.

This is to ease your disappointment once you meet her and find out she is beyond your expectation. Whatever happens that night, meeting a new friend shall always be great idea and broaden your social life circle.

Here few things you must prepare and plan before hand:


1. What to do first.


2. Where to and what activities


2. What to do / say


3. If it goes well


4. If it does not go well

What to do
Firstly, have your matchmaker informed her that you will be calling, that way she will be expecting your call. And once you call, you won't find yourself in a situation trying to explain to her that you are not a telemarketer who trying to sell her the new product of panties or cosmetics.

Introduce yourself as the matchmaker's friend and ask her what she enjoys doing. Always have several suggestions on hand. You don't want to give her impression that you are a passive or uncreative type person by suggesting movies for your first date.

Unless both of you are a movies goer – movies is not a good idea since it does not support and not provides opportunity to communicate to know each other better. You'll be paying more attention to your movies instead to your date.

Where to and what activities
Always find activities that require both of you get involved each other and engage in sporadic physical contact to see if there is a mutual interest between both of you.

Ask her to play pool table, for instance. She couldn't play? Perfect. Offer to teach her and you will have many hand contacts. How about mini golf? Good! You will impress her. Novel review outdoor? Why not! Or a walk in the beach? Offer a lunch or dinner afterwards, but remember to book your table few hours few hours before hand. Waiting or queuing for your table will ruin your night.

What to do / say
Listen to what she says. I really mean that you listen to what she is saying and respond with passion. She would like you better if you show great attention and interest to what she's saying rather than you fighting her back by shooting words from your mouth boasting yourself.

Once come the time you have to ask questions, do not get too personal. Don't ask her personal subject and don't tell her about your bad experience with your ex no matter how she hurt you. It's taboo! If you start whining, you gave her a negative image.

If you can't think of anything to say, bring up the matchmaker's issue. Both of you have known the matchmaker and you both have common ground of the person who set you up so use is as your advantage. One warning though don't talk negative or bad issue about the matchmaker.

According to a research on 500 couple who joined speed dating, only 9% couples who brought up movies as topic agreed to meet again and 18% who talked about traveling agreed to meet again. So picking up correct topic for your conversation is essential.

If it goes well
By the end of the date, if everything goes well and both of you find a mutual interest, tell her you had a great time and ask her if she wants to go out some time next week and let her know you will give her a call. Suggesting doing thing together that came up during your conversation. If both of you love coffee, ask her to cupping to new coffee shop.

Say good night, give her a hug and kiss her on cheek do not on the lips.

If it doesn't go well


If it doesn't go well, also tell her that you had a great time and it's nice to meet her you'll probably will see her around. There is no need to be harsh or rude – if both of you are not interest, believe me, both of you will know. Be polite and thank her for the evening, instead.

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Monday, April 16, 2007

Making Your Lover Your Number One Priority

Nurturing a successful romantic relationship means finding time to spend with your significant other, but in today's busy world it can be difficult to balance a hectic career and other obligations with your responsibilities as a romantic partner. Sure, you may think that you're spending enough time with your lover and that they know that your romance is the most important thing in your life. But are you certain of that?

Reiterating to your sweetheart that your romantic relationship is your number one priority–even more important than your career or other obligations that might keep you away–could be step that you need to take to build a better romance. Many of us take for granted that our lover knows that they are our "number one," but sharing a romantic partner with a busy career or hectic schedule can sometimes make a person feel second best.

You might make a point to romantically hug your lover as soon as you get home from work or to spend as much free time with them on the weekends, but simply telling them that they are the most important priority in your life is just as important.

How you tell them is up to you. Whether it's with words, in a card or romantic note, or with a romantic text message, letting your lover know that they are the most important thing in your life will work wonders for your loving relationship.

Your career or other important duties may keep you away from your lover more than you would like, and your romantic partner probably knows that you have certain obligations that your have to fulfill in order to be a good parent, role model or spouse. But when is the last time you told your lover that they are much more important to you than anything else in the world?

It's a simple thing to say, but you'll be amazed at how much more fulfilling your romantic relationship will be if you tell your lover that they're your number one priority. Let them know . . . today!

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Thursday, April 12, 2007

Betrayed By Love Part Two

Finding the right person to share your life with is like searching the ocean floor until you find a clam that shelters a priceless pearl. It is so prefect that you take it to a jeweler and you place it in a beautiful ring setting so you can show it off to everyone you know. Every time you glance down at the pearl you are inspired by its brilliance and it inflames your heart with love.

This is the reason that it hurts so much when you are betrayed by love. It was as if the pearl that was so valuable fell out of it's setting and was lost to you forever. But it was worse than that for me, because I was not lost. The person I loved just discarded me, she cut me off without a word and left me bewildered as to why. I believe one reason she tossed me aside was because our relationship would have caused a change that her family would not have liked.

She confided to me that her son forbid her to ever have anything to do with me! I was surprised, but I just brushed it off believing that her son would eventually get used to us being together. It is true I had no relationship with him after we parted, but it was her decision to cut him off from me.

We had previously spent seventeen years together and I had been her son's other parent from the age of four. I still loved him and I still thought of him as my child. I always prayed for him and his own young son, just like my own three children, whether his mother and I were together or not.

I really didn't understand why her family was a problem. When we were together there never was a good relationship with her father or her grandparents. So why would this time be any different.

Things were totally opposite with my own children. They were very open to the possibility of us getting back together. They all stated emphatically that they wanted me to be happy and they would accept any decision I made. Even though they knew it would mean I wouldn't have as much time for them.

I listened to everything she had to say about how hard her coming back to me would be. I once again asked her if she was sure and she said that she was. I believed she truly was done with her current relationship and that in time her family would accept us being together.

Love shared with another person is the most valuable thing a person can have to sustain life. When love is in place then you feel secure and safe, because you know the other person has your back.

True love makes you willing to give up your life for the other person. You happily make sacrifices because the love you feel is worth more than all the money in the world.

It was an easy thing for me to not even question that she was using me for money. I believed her when she said she was behind on her bills and she needed money for food. I believed her when she said she loved me and that she and I would be together again soon.

True love is the reason why couples can face all forms of disasters. Love gives them the strength to stand by their children when they are addicted to drugs or alcohol. Love gives them the ability to face the loss of a child or to handle the affects of a natural disaster that takes everything they own. Love makes a couple strong!

This is the reason people say it is better to love than to never have loved. Human love is wonderful, but real love is to understand that when it fails, God's love is everlasting!

I accepted Jesus Christ as my Savior when I was seven years old. I didn't understand what an important decision that was for me until I began to experience all the pain the world can throw at a person. I didn't understand how much I would need Jesus to be my Savior!

I didn't understand how much I needed a God that had supernatural powers. I only began to understand how much I needed a Savior when my world came crashing down around me.

My human weaknesses wanted me to give up and believe that I had no hope! My inability to hold onto love made me want to quit life and cut myself off from all human beings. I wanted to protect myself from ever being hurt again and death seemed like a wonderful option.

This is when I needed a Savior! This is when I needed Jesus Christ to give me the strength to take one day at a time. This is when I believed that I could have a future that is better than the betrayal I found from the person I loved.

Falling back onto my faith in God I sought Him to explain why I had to suffer for love. I believed that God was giving her back to me. Yet here I was alone.

When Adam and Eve ate the apple, they changed our world. Their desire to be like God brought all mankind to the valley of decision. A decision where we would be presented with choices. The Bible describes these choices as tests. The ultimate goal of the test is to get us to understand the difference between good and evil. Differences that would lead us to understand why love is God, while hate is Satan. God also refers to this as overcoming sin. This is illustrated in the example given to us when Cain kills his brother Abel.

Genesis 4: 6&7, "Then the Lord said to Cain, 'Why are you angry? Why that scowl on your face? If you had done the right thing, you would be smiling; but because you have done evil, sin is crouching at your door. It wants to rule you, but you must overcome it.'"

The illustration of Cain and Abel shows us how freewill works in our lives. Our own will determines which path we take. One path leads to the reward of Heaven and unconditional love and the other to losing our game of life to evil and being destroyed by the tests we face.

This is the reason why those who don't have the saving power of Jesus Christ, commit suicide or get lost in a drug addiction. They can't stand up to the betrayals of life, so they give up. This is the reason why people commit crimes against each other by taking money under false pretenses. They do this because they choose to take care of themselves and they don't think of how it hurts another person.

Being betrayed by love doesn't make your heart stop loving the person. You still love and knowing how the game of life works makes you look at the betrayal differently. You are afraid for the person who caused you harm. Because you know that what she did to you was wrong.

When Jesus walked the earth He brought an entirely different message. His words changed how people reacted to those who hurt them. These words brought a kinder and gentler way of handling the problems we will face in the world with love.

Mark 12:31a, "The second most important commandment is this: 'Love your neighbor as you love yourself.'"

John 15: 12&13, "My commandment is this; love one another, just as I love you. The greatest love a person can have for his friends is to give his life for them."

Matthew 6:14&15, "If you forgive others the wrongs they have done to you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done."

We are to love regardless of what happens to us. We are to forgive because when we harbor the grief we feel, then it can pull us down and make us hate. And hate is the opposite of love. To hate is to sin and that makes us just as susceptible to evil as the person who hurt us.

Matthew 6: 24, "No one can be a slave of two masters; he will hate one and love the other; he will be loyal to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money."

When she took money from me, I truly believed that she did have real financial needs. I do not love money, I use money to live and to help others.

I tell the story of my betrayal not to get back at the person who did this to me, because I will always love her. Rather I tell it so the betrayals that you suffer will lead you to forgive and move on with your life.

Jesus Christ is the Savior of the world and He will help you to let go of the pain. Letting go allows God to help you heal. Having faith in a supernatural God helps give you strength and helps you to endure no matter what happens to you in the greatest game ever played, the game of life.

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Monday, April 02, 2007

Not All Dating Sites Are Created Equal

Not all dating sites are created equal and as a result it may take some careful research to find the best dating site for you. Dating sites may vary in a variety of ways including the demographic they cater to, the ways that they allow contact between members, the methods, if any, of matchmaking that are available and the cost of a membership to the site. Considering all of these factors will help you to choose the best dating site for you.

If you are interested in meeting potential partners of a particular race, creed, age or sexual orientation, you may wish to choose a dating site that caters to the demographic that is of particular interest to you. While most dating sites include a wide variety of members and you can probably find a suitable match on just about any site, if you want to increase your chances you will want to choose a site where the majority of members meet your demographic requirements. Most dating sites allow you to search by certain keywords or phrases to find a match but you may be limiting yourself by joining a dating site that does not have a wide selection that interests you. Also, while many dating sites may not explicitly state that they cater to a certain demographic you may find that this exclusivity is occurring naturally on the site. If you have demographic requirements in your potential match, it is best to do plenty of research in order to choose a dating site that has a high percentage of potential mates who meet your demographic preferences.

Another area to investigate before choosing the best dating site for you is the ways in which the site allows contact between members. Sites vary in the way that they allow contact and you have to decide what you are comfortable with before choosing a dating site. You may find sites that will release contact information such as email address and telephone numbers on your approval or other sites that won't divulge contact information in any situations but allows members to exchange information through private chat rooms at their own discretion. On some dating sites, member email addresses are readily displayed and on others, even this piece of information is not allowed. It is wise to safeguard your contact information by choosing a dating site that has firm restrictions on releasing contact information. It's important to keep in mind thought that this strictness can work for you and against you. It can prevent you from receiving contact from many members that you don't necessarily want to receive contact from but it also prohibits you from having easy access to a member that you find appealing. It is important to consider your feelings on the availability of contact information on a dating site and carefully research the regulations before choosing a dating site.

Evaluating a dating site's matchmaking methods is another way to choose the best dating site for you. If you prefer to peruse member profiles at your own leisure and not be contacted by site administrations regarding potential matches, the best dating site for you may be one that does not have match making features. If you don't have the time to comb through member profiles in search of a match or simply don't want to do this, you may want to choose a dating site that does provide you with information regarding potential matches. If you decide to go with a site that provides a matchmaking feature, you will need to further investigate the methods of matchmaking in choosing the dating site that is right for you. Matchmaking methods utilized by some dating sites include matching up members based on the percentage of matching keywords or phrases or using a trial and error method by sending you a few initial matches and then tailoring future matches based on your responses to the initial matches. Whether or not you choose a dating site that provides matchmaking services is up to you but if you do choose one that does provide matchmaking services you need to also investigate the matchmaking methods employed by the site.

A final consideration in choosing the best dating site for you is the fees involved with the site. There are dating sites that are free of charge and there are some sites charge a flat monthly rate while others charge based on the number of profiles you view and still others that charge based on the number of messages you send to members. A free site may not necessarily be the best bargain when it comes to dating sites. If you are really serious about finding a match a free site may not be for you. Since there is nothing to lose in joining a free site, these sites are often filled with members who aren't really serious about finding matches. On the other hand sites that charge a fee, involve making an investment so you are more likely to find members on this site that are really committed to meeting matches. Sites that charge a flat monthly fee for membership are likely your best bargain. These types of dating sites give you the opportunity to view as many profiles as you like and send as many messages as you like to members. While it's true that you are also free to do this with dating sites that charge per profile viewed or message sent, you are probably more likely to exercise caution in the number of profiles you view or members you contact. There are many factors involving fees to consider in choosing a dating site.

Choosing the right dating site for you may take a great deal of initial research but in the end your research efforts may result in you having a better chance of meeting a potential match. Considering the demographic that the site caters to, the contact methods the site allows, the matchmaking methods employed and the applicable fees are all crucial to choosing the best dating site for you.

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