Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Getting Great Dating Tips

If you are on the dating scene and find you are feeling a bit bored with it, or are new to it and anxious about what to wear and what to say, then all it may take is a few dating tips to make you feel excited about it!

You see, dating is fun, but so many people get caught up in the worries of it, or start to feel jaded after having a 'duff' date, that they forget why they are doing it!

Getting dating tips can help you have an enjoyable dating experience by giving you new ideas on where to go; rules of etiquette; and the confidence to just go out there and have a good time!

For people who are bored with it, dating tips may show the experience in a new light and add the excitement back to it. For new daters, the tips can help allay fears over how to act and what to wear etc.

So where do you find dating tips? First of all, start close to home. Friends and family may prove useful and will certainly give you advice based on their own personal experiences. However if you'd rather hold your cards closer to your chest, then the internet has lots of useful resources that you can access.

There are hundreds of dating and friendship websites online and most have a bank of articles that you can read on things such as "where to go on a date" to "what to wear" and "what not to talk about". There are numerous articles on just about every aspect of dating, so you can surf until your heart is content and you feel ready to enjoy dating.

Going on a date should be something you look forward to and enjoy. Get some good dating tips and you should be all set to have a whale of a time!

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Friday, May 25, 2007

What Do You Want From a Relationship, (and How Will it Make a Difference?)

We set goals for ourselves at times and never consider the outcome of achieving those goals. Some goals become so important that we spend an entire lifetime achieving them, and in the end, what have we really achieved? Therefore, it is important to ask this fundamental question when we achieve our goal: "How has this changed me?"

Did accomplishing your goal make you feel good, or more secure? Perhaps achieving the goal freed you from some kind of servitude or mundane existence that prohibited you from doing what you would really love to do. But are you really freer when you, for example, find Mr. or Ms. Right, finally retire from that job you have put up with all these years, or finished your novel, or painted your masterpiece? Has anything inside of you changed?

If it hasn't, except for that very brief whiff of fresh air when your goal is accomplished, then your passing freedom will be reduced to servitude once more, as your mind falls into predictable habits formed over a lifetime. There will be the next relationship, job, or book, or painting, and your new pursuit will without doubt become a prison no different from that which you have struggled so long and hard to escape. This is because you haven't made a fundamental change in the way your mind works, and your mind works out of fear, fear of the way things are. We can never be satisfied.

This is the mind's habit, protecting you from this moment where we live, and it can't change its habits by accomplishing goals; it can only change its habits by a complete and utter shake-up. Without this restructuring, all goals will be followed by more goals, endlessly, because the mind will never find its solace in accomplishing. Only when accomplishing ends, and the mind becomes stilled and all accepting, is there the possibility of a reformation of the mind.

This reformation can happen as the result of a serious accident, a severe illness, or unconditional love where your are mysteriously transformed, and where all of your old patterns and values suddenly become refined simply because the mind lost control for a moment. For a moment, you were just there with reality, nothing more, and that transitory experience changed you forever. It's not something you planned, or expected, life just took over for a second, and now you find yourself almost on a different planet.

Then you might wonder what on earth you were thinking in your old life, and how you can now see, and before you were blind – and all because of an accident of some kind. But what if we could make this fundamental change in our minds that would free us without an accident or illness or sometimes fleeting relationship? What if we could have the insight and awareness of a star child, or of an indigo child, or of an enlightened sage? How do they think? How do they reason and interact with the many circumstances of life? What if there were ways to attain, for ourselves, this new consciousness and awareness without the bother of an accident, illness, tenuous relationship, or without the trouble of dying and being reborn again?

But how?

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Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Dating Tips- 4 Things Never to Say to Your Girlfriend

"What did I say?" You wonder to yourself. Ever found yourself in this situation?

Dating tips for guys to use to ensure dating women doesn't become a verbal nightmare.
Coco Swan explains those terms that come with a guarantee to upset your girlfriend.

1: "I'll leave it to you to decide." Life is full of decision making. By saying "I'll leave it to you to decide" you are actually saying "I just don't care what you decide". While men think of decision making as hard work, women see making choices as being part of a partnership and look forward to the input. When you leave it to them to make the decision you are making them feel that you just don't care enough.
Solution: "I don't care for plan A but plan B and C sound pretty good. What do you think?" This is a great answer because it gets you out of deciding, displays the fact you were listening and implies you care enough.

2: "Just relax." It might seem rational to you to say this when your girlfriend is totally freaking out. However, your girlfriend is upset about something which she sees as a valid reason for being so. When you tell her to relax, you are implying that whatever is upsetting her to this extent is trivial, or worse, that she is being irrational. Girls do not like to be thought of as irrational. When you stay calm, which in her eyes is doing nothing, you are denying that there is a reason for her to be upset.
Solution: "Let's fix this together. This is upsetting for me as well." You have now become empathic.

3:"I love you" while arguing. The three most romantic words in the English language should never be used to get out of an argument. When your girlfriend is still furious with you, trying to get out of the fight like that will never work. Your girlfriend has more to say and you will be hearing it. By attempting to finish the disagreement like that, you are coming over as trying to sneakily shut her up and you will just wind her up even more. Saying those three words now are not going to help you.
Solution: Explain what has happened, in detail, with a good reason attached. Reassure her that you won't do it again. Now you can say "I love you". It is perfectly acceptable to finish off with this, just don't start your apology with it.

4: Saying nothing at all. You may think this is the safe option. You might be scared of saying the wrong thing. You might be worried about incriminating yourself. You may be thinking "silence is golden". Wrong, so wrong, very wrong and totally wrong! Girls feel abandoned and on their own when you do not talk.
Solution: Say something, anything at all. You are better off to make some contribution to the conversation than none at all. It doesn't matter if what you say is not right, it is always better than nothing at all.

The all time classic one-liners.
These are the three dating secrets that all girls love to hear. By saying any of these you will be sure to defuse the situation and make her far more rational and loving.

"Tell me the whole story." Girls become angry at the thought of not being able to tell their side of the tale. By giving her free reign to talk, she will automatically start to calm down. Additionally, she will start thinking as she is talking "is this part really important?" and "do I really want to tell him this bit? And the story will become a lot shorter.

"You are just so gorgeous." This must be said in a very genuine sounding way, and as if you have just that second been blinded by her beauty. From a girl's perspective, is probably better than saying "I love you" as an end to an argument.

"I'm sorry, it is my fault." Or "I'm sorry, you were right." Hard words to say, but there is nothing more of a turn on to a woman than a man who is prepared to admit defeat on the strength of his love. Obviously, it probably wasn't all your fault, and if so, then you should be receiving an apology as well. You may feel like you are losing face by saying sorry, but in reality you are gaining enormous amounts of respect.

You can win the war of the words. Use this guide to dating to keep the love and romance.
By using these relationship tips you will be able to defuse any argument and keep your love.

Good Luck, Coco Swan.

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Sunday, May 20, 2007

Tips To Take For A Date Of A Lifetime

First dates are undeniably some of the most memorable times of any ones life. Though dates are taken in a wild and wooly assortment of ways, they all share common ground in that first dates are impressions that stay with us our whole life through.

Here are some special tips that can help you make your first date a night to remember for the rest of your life.

1. As the date begins, do your best to be calm; it is normal to be a bit nervous. Perhaps a shared drink will relax the both of you. An excellent beginning is sure to bring positive vibrations into the mix where ease of conversation sets a charming stage.

2. Remember to be mindful of any unspoken signs of feeling from your date; this includes being attentive to body language as well. Matters of sensitivity carry a lot of weight when interacting with a date.

3. Bearing in mind that a date is a light hearted way in which it intermingle with others while you get to know each other will help ease any seriousness in conduct. There is no need of uncomfortable pressure, so enjoy yourself while participating in the special event and you will enjoy one of the best times in your life.

4. Remember that everyone has a lifetime story and everyone needs the art of conversation to share those moments while getting to know each other. Do your best to avoid dominating the entire conversation; this is a rule for both male and female. Be sincere in in conversation as well as controlling the moderation of your voice, doing so will leave you open to being listened to while conversing in the future.

5. Let's face it; the first few dates are not especially good times for discussing sex or ex-partners. Even though you may be tempted into these conversations, keep in mind that they can come across as being totally unbecoming and uncomfortable for either sex. These conversations can seem rude to the point of being a major turn off, so concerning these types of conversation it is less that means more. Keep it to yourself until a later date if you must indulge.

6. Be politely as well as clearly focused on your date, no matter how attractive someone sitting at the next table might be. Do not let others distract you from the extraordinary person you are spending the evening with getting to know. Everyone finds attention from the opposite sex to be appealing. Stay focused.

7. Be entertaining and clever. These are some of the most adorable and complimentary traits you can show off to your date. Clearly nothing beats an open fun loving, hearty conversation. You might consider that this date would be your opportunity to relax with any other dates to come. Share some of those light and carefree thoughts.

Tips To Take For A Date Of A Lifetime

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Thursday, May 17, 2007

Tips To Bear in Mind When Online Dating

It is natural to want to search for someone special to share our lives with. Man has been doing this since the beginning of time. Many people panic if they do not have a significant other by a certain age but the truth is everybody is different. Some couples get together in college, marry, have a family and spend sixty happy years together. Other couples meet when they are in their eighties and enjoy the last few years of their life together. Some people have several unhappy relationships or marriages before meeting their soulmate and settling down with him or her. It is said that there is someone for everybody and this is true. It is human nature to love and to crave companionship.

These days, online dating tends to be growing in popularity. There are many websites where you can make friends, look for a partner or chat to various people with a view to a relationship. There are tens of thousands of single people, widows and widowers and divorced people online looking for love. Like with the traditional form of dating, there are various tips you should bear in mind when using online dating and some traditional dating strategies you can apply to online dating.

First of all, it is usually the man who does the running when it comes to 'chasing' a woman. Being discreet and ladylike is far more attractive behavior in a woman that running after the man in an aggressive way (which also comes across as being a bit too desperate!) Likewise, a man should be confident. A timid man is almost always a turn-off to women.

It is important to get to know your potential partner before beginning a sexual relationship or discussing it. Verbal foreplay is a bad idea because it often leads to the bedroom. A couple who meets and begins sexual relations almost immediately probably will not last as a couple because it is an extremely intimate act and can destroy the delicate bond the couple has already established. Let it wait until you have spent some time with your new partner and talked about many other topics. Respect one another enough to wait.

You should be yourself when online dating. Remember that the nobody can see you sitting there and it would be so easy to put on a persona who is not you but when you meet someone for real, that is who they will be expecting. Being yourself means that you stand a far better chance of finding someone who loves you for yourself.

If you have had bad relationships in the past, try not to dwell on these and do not discuss them with your new friend on your first date! Everyone is different and just because someone hurt you in the past does not mean you should be needy and clingy with your new partner, worrying constantly that he will do the same. Do not expect too much. Just let the relationship develop naturally.

The most important online dating tip is just to enjoy yourself. Be yourself, enjoy meeting new people and do not form high expectations. With a bit of luck, you will find a special someone to share your life with.

Tips To Bear in Mind When Online Dating

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Monday, May 14, 2007

Free Dating Online – Is It Ever Really Free?

If you want to try dating online, you may think that testing out a dating service by way of a free membership or a free registration is a good idea. This will let you see what sort of potential dating partners they have available, before you spend any money, right?

This is fine, but you should be aware of some issues with free online dating services.

Firstly, only a very small or very new dating service will offer free online dating to all its subscribers (in other words, will give you the full profile and full contact details of your selected date). This is because they will be trying to build up the numbers of people they have in their database before they start to charge members a subscription for their service. Though their service is free, as the number of people using their service is small, you will be very unlikely to find a compatible date this way.

Another problem with free dating online services, or trial subscriptions, is that you will quickly discover that the service you get for free lacks some of the features of full or paid membership. You may not be able to contact other members you may be interested in, or email them. You may not have access to all the most recent or most attractive members. In other words, the 'free' service is actually just bait to get you hooked, so that you are more likely to get your credit card out.

Speaking of credit cards, many free dating online companies will offer you time-limited free access to the full service. Using the old marketing trick which was in use by magazine publishers and others long before the Internet came along, you will be required to give your credit card details before you get access; after a month or less, you will start being charged for full membership unless you remember to cancel. This will happen whether you have successfully got a date from using the service or not. Some services also use monthly charging via Paypal, which you are even less likely to check regularly.

Another issue is that many of the potential dates you see on free dating sites may not even be real people. While a paying credit card registration will ensure a person is who they say they are, a free registration can be faked – with a false photograph, false age, false address and even a false gender being given. The only real detail given may be the email address, and we all know how easy it is to get an anonymous email address from Yahoo or Hotmail. But why would someone set up a free profile like this?

This is called a 'romance scam', in which a person looking for love gets in touch with someone who looks like an attractive date online. Often, the photo of a model will actually be used as bait. The scammer will refuse to meet, pleading that they are short of money or have a medical or other crisis that needs to be solved first. An appeal to the victim soon follows, money is sent, and the 'date' is never heard from again.

Despite these warnings, there are honest and useful services for free dating online which are available, and many successful relationships have started this way. The best approach is to take some time to browse many of the services, decide whether you want to go with a specialist or general dating site, compare their membership numbers and professionalism, then test the ones you feel most comfortable with.

By the way, you sound nice, how about doing dinner?

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Friday, May 11, 2007

The Advantages In Choosing A Bride You Will Love Forever

A Yahoo search for a "bridal agency Ukraine" yields over 82,000 results. For a country, which has been locked away to the rest of the world for years and has gained independence a little over ten years ago, such results seem overwhelming. Why has this business flourished in the FSU countries within the last few years? Are women of these countries on a prowl for a rich husband? Are they raking around for an unforgettable short-term romance? Or are they seeking something more profound like true love and someone to make them happy?

Lucky for me, when questions began swarming in my head, a good girlfriend of mine, who has lived in Italy for a number of years, was in town to visit her family. So, instead of digging through piles of statistics and wracking my brain in search of the answers, I turned to the source with first-hand experience.

Before I move on, let me make myself clear: by no means does this article include motives and wants of every woman, who submits her profile to a bridal agency. And I will be the first to encourage foreigners: do exercise caution once you choose the path of a bridal agency search. In the past, some ladies from the FSU countries have provided more than enough negative publicity, but don't let that discourage you and miss out on a chance to gift someone the pleasure of communication and a possibility to find love. With that in mind, I proceed…

When I began questioning the motives of women who take a chance on bridal agencies, my first discovery was quite disturbing. One of the top reasons why FSU women prefer foreigners is that men at their home country… aren't good enough.

"Many people talk about how awful it is (for FSU women) to live abroad and tell you horror stories. Why not admit that the reason is in men at home, who, in my opinion, don't know what a family is?" – was a comment from Natasha, who used to be Russian Bride in response to the article in one of the leading Russian papers, which condemned marriages to foreigners. "Unfortunately, 'Russian' men have got a long way to go to keep up with men from abroad."

Some bridal agencies will give you the same information. An American journalist, who took a "find-the-bride" trip to Ukraine as a part of his investigation for a story, says in his on-line journal that the instructor on the tour explained to him: Ukrainian and Russian men "drink, philander, alternately beat and neglect women." Obviously, not every FSU man treats women this way. Nevertheless, a general conception that most Russian/Ukrainian women share of men in their home countries comes down to a few common words: irresponsible, hard-hearted, too demanding and not willing to provide for their children, let alone their mother. Given that FSU women are admired throughout history for their strong family ties and devotion, it is not surprising that many of them come to bridal agencies expecting to find someone trustworthy, reliable and willing to create and nourish the family.

Another observation Natasha made after a three-year long marriage to a foreigner: "Actually, when I married him, I didn't want to live in Italy… But Italians are very family oriented and put more emphasis on family values. That meant a lot to me. Foreigners in general seem to be more serious about family and children, unlike men at home."

In line with lack of quality of FSU men, there is also lack of quantity. Statistics show that during 2002 the ratio men-women was 46 % to 54%, and hasn't changed much since. Given that a large part of these 46% are people who can't be counted on for love, care and support, it leaves the ladies of Russia and Ukraine very little to choose from. Obviously, when something you need is not in sight, you look to broader horizons.

"All the good ones have been snatched away long ago, your chances to find someone in this country after you turn 25 are next to nill," Natasha mused over a cup а coffee (she married her Italian sweetheart at the age of 29). "It seems the guys (in Ukraine) disappear when they turn 30."

On top of all said, the appreciation of their own feminity sets FSU women apart from American or European ladies. Most foreigners note that FSU women look different from the latter two, and I don't just mean their outward beauty, which has been mentioned and admired by many. These ladies like to look pretty, it is not unusual for them to wear a dress and pumps on a regular basis, they care about their body and like to be attractive. Bottom line, they want to be feminine, not feminist.

FSU women cherish being a "weak gender", which for them means taking care of their family in the first place, as well as being cared for and appreciated. Promises of that seem to be given in abundance by Americans and Europeans, many of whom share an opinion that it has been too long since Western women have shown any aspiration to cherish the softer side of the "weaker gender". In comparison with a constant rush of women at home to make careers and get equal with men, the feminine side of the FSU ladies is at definite advantage to men from abroad. Even some FSU men will admit that "their" women are attractive to the foreigners exactly because they "remain women, not some emancipated feminists, like in the West."

Natasha gets a bit nostalgic remembering her first few times to visit Italy: "I went to Italy to feel like a queen, to get my share of attention, which I had been lacking from our men. I think there is so much beauty (in Russia), that our men are simply used to it, it is mundane to them, they forget about simple compliments… Italians value beauty."

After all this, what can I say to men in search of their destiny? It all comes down to what you are looking for. No doubt, there will be some money-hungry vamps, eager to trap you. If you want an exotic one night stand, you can find that in Ukraine, Russia or anywhere in the world for that matter. But if you are looking for a woman who will respect you, relish her family and be as smart as she is pretty, the chances of you finding that in Ukraine or Russia are greater than at any other place. Russian Bride is the best.
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Wednesday, May 09, 2007

Five Helpful Tips To Make Online Dating Successful

Online dating is becoming more popular in society. It's become the same as real-life dating. Sometimes it is very exciting to meet somebody online. Currently, online dating expands the possibility to find the right person, no matter where you live. It has allowed people to fully express themselves to others and stay comfortable. But you have to be careful and wise when making online dating decisions.

Here is the list of seven powerful tips that will make your online dating effective, safe, and successful.

1. Provide information only when you think it is necessary.

Someone first starts by introducing himself. Remember, you don't know the person that you will meet well enough yet. You know how actual live dating goes.

The online dating process is practically the same as in real life. In real life, you don't run around and offer people your full name, address, telephone number, and e-mail address.

In online dating, tell only the information that it is safe to give. At the same time the information that you realize should be enough for people to build an opinion about you.

2. Be truthful.

No matter if it's online or in real life, we must be honest. It's much easier to be truthful than watch your back all the time for everything we can say about ourselves that's not true.

From the beginning, tell any of your potential dates the truth and it will be easier to have good, healthy relationships in the future. Of course, don't forget to follow the common sense. Remember, you don't know your date very well yet.

3. Request a photograph.

There can be a situation in which a person with whom you are communicating online with isn't describing himself, but another person, or nobody at all.

Sometimes, you might create a person's image in your head based on the description that he provides you. That image can be far from how that person actually looks in real life. To save yourself disappointment just ask for a picture.

Of course, people will provide you with their best picture, and possibly even with the image of how you think they would look. Know with whom you are speaking and have additional information about the person that you meet.

4. Be careful

When you are setting a meeting for the first time with that person that you met online, make sure that it will be in some open public place. It is helpful to have people around if something goes wrong. Make sure that your friends or relatives know where you are going to be and at what time you are planning on coming back home.

Don't be dependent on your date. Have your own transportation, so you are free to leave when you need to. Make sure that your friends all have possible information about your date.

5. Pay for yourself

If a man buys movie tickets and wants to pay the whole check at the restaurant, most likely he is a gentlemen. But, there are those that wait for something in return for that free meal. Remember this is your first date with that person and you don't know him well enough yet.

You must be dependent, and not feel obligated so split all expenses. But if you like the person and don't want to hurt his feelings, tell him that you will allow him to cover the whole bill next time.

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Monday, May 07, 2007

Date or Soul Mate? - What a Tough Decision?

Are you the type that thinks you should be single for your entire life and date around or are you the type that knows you want love and a soul mate? Most of us know we want love even if we have tricked ourselves into thinking that we don't. Would you rather find a date or soul mate? Here are three questions to ponder when you think about what you want in your life.

Date or Soul Mate #1 – Have you allowed your life to be all about your career?

Being dedicated to your work is not a bad thing, but we cannot ignore our basic human need and desire for someone to love and someone to love us. We need love in our lives and we are all seeking it on one level or another.

If you have let your career take over your life and it is interfering with your chances to find the right person to love, then you might want to take a step back and reevaluate what is really important. You can always make money, but you may only have a few chances at real true love.

Date or Soul Mate #2 – Do you feel lonely?

If you feel lonely in your life it is probably because it has been a while since you have dated someone that you could consider a potential soul mate. We always feel better about ourselves and your lives when we have someone special to share it with. It is a hard time when you feel lonely and it is a dangerous time.

This is a vulnerable time that could have you dating someone that is completely wrong for you just because you feel lonely. Don't fall into this trap. Understand that there is a better way and it involves you never feeling lonely again.

Date or Soul Mate #3 – Are you stuck in a rut and feel like there is just nobody worth meeting or dating out there?

This is very common, but you have to understand that there is someone out there. Most likely you keep meeting losers because of where you meet them. Look back on the last few losers you tried to date and remember where you met them. Was it a bar or night club? Was it a situation that you were already vulnerable?

You probably met them in a circumstance that if it had been different you would have told them to get lost. The reality is they were not right for you and you knew it before you ever went on a date with them. Listen to yourself and avoid these situations.

The decision is ultimately yours, but most of us know that love is a need, want, and strong desire in our lives. Date or Soul Mate, but if you chose soul mate how do you find the right person for you and where should you be looking?

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Sunday, May 06, 2007

Why Breaking a Follow-up Date is a Great Way to Build Attraction

Here's a tip that's not for the weak of heart...

During your dating life, you'll be going out with a variety of women. In fact, your goal is to establish yourself as a higher status guy who provides women with fun experiences. In order to do this, you have to show her that she should value the time that you spend together.

The best way to establish this is try this technique…

After you've gone on few dates with a woman, you've probably built up enough attraction and chemistry. Now if you REALLY want to build up heightened levels of attraction, then you should do this:

Break your third or fourth date!

Although this technique might seem counterintuitive, I can tell you purposefully breaking a date is a great way to increase her level of interest in you.

Here's why...

According to the 'Scarcity Principle', taking something away from a person will make them more interested. Breaking a follow-up date does the same thing with a woman. It makes her wonder if you're REALLY interested in her. By sowing a little bit of doubt, she'll try to work harder for your affections.

Just remember a few things about this technique:

Breaking a date can be a slightly disrespectful way to treat a woman. So if you decide to follow my advice, then recommend that you follow these 3 simple rules:

1) Cancel NO LATER then two days before the date. That way, she can make other plans.

2) Tell her that you can't make it today, but you still want to go out on another day

3) DON'T go out to a public place where you might be caught by her. If you break a date, then go out with your buddies to a local bar you'll might risk bumping into her

Breaking a date is a sneaky thing to do to a woman. But if you're interesting in establishing higher status, then I would recommend trying it one time.

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Saturday, May 05, 2007

Moving In Together

This is a tough question to answer and there is no clear cut time table as to when a couple should move in together. One of the most important factors to consider is the amount of time you have been dating. You probably shouldn't move in with someone after 3 months or less of dating; there's still that "getting to know each other" period. So even though you may want to wake up next to the person – don't start sharing bills right away. If you want to do the sleepover on weekends as a trial, that's perfectly alright; just don't make the commitment to move together that soon.

If you have been dating for over 6 month, you can approach the subject by sitting down and discussing how the move would affect your relationship. Women are more commitment orientated then men so don't pressure your man to move in with you. You two may have a great relationship and he may not be ready to move in just yet.

Most people take settle down to mean marriage. But in this day and age, more and more people are living together without getting married. So the term living together may signal a thought of settling down or even the possibility of marriage that may be scary for either partner. Some couples may wait a year or so before they move in together because they want to make sure that they're with the right person.

That theory also works the other way as well. Some people think the idea of moving in together is a great way to see if you're truly in love with the person. It's a good theory, but it can also have some negative side effects. For instance, say your partner moves in and after a few months it doesn't work out. As a result, the person who moved will have to pack up again, find a new place and move out. Chances are the relationship will end and maybe it would have lasted longer if you didn't rush it.

That's why it is very important to discuss moving in first. Bring up the subject and see how your partner will react. Remember, you don't have to discuss it all in one day, let it simmer for a while. If the subject seems to be dropped over time, bring it up again in 2 or 3 weeks; don't constantly nag because chances are that won't work. If the relationship is worth keeping then don't rush into anything. When the right times comes it comes and if your partner isn't ready, and they may never be, then you can reevaluate your relationship. The most important thing is that you give it time.

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Friday, May 04, 2007

How To Be Closer To Your Man Without Looking Needy!

We all want to be closer to our man. This is something that we may feel the need to do because it will make us feel better about our relationship. This is going to be a great achievement for most couples. However, it is not always easy to get close to your man because you may not want to look too needy to them. You have to know how to do it right so that you are not making a big mistake in your relationship.

1) Allow Your Man To Have Their Space

You need to allow your man to have their space but you want to also get as close to them as you can. When you are trying to learn about their life and find out as much as you can, you will want to be in their life but you also want to let them have their space so that they can do the things that they like to do too.

2) Sometimes, Your Man Needs To Do Something Alone

If a man says that they need to do something and they need to do it alone, you need to let them. This is the only way that you can be sure that they are doing what they need to and getting the space that they need. If you are asked to leave or you are not invited to something in their life, you should make sure that you are letting them do it. This will make them feel as if they have their space and that you are not being too needy.

3) Make Your Man Feel Loved

You will want to make your man feel loved. You want them to feel like they are very important to you but you do not want to be a stalker or anything like that. If you are too clingy, you may in fact scare them away. You may feel as if you are not giving them as much of your attention as you should. You need to make sure that you are doing all that you can to make your man feel good but you should also let them do the same for you. If you are not receiving love back, you may not be in the relationship that you should.

4) Do Not Call Your Man All The Time.

You need to back off at times. It is ok to call your man daily and to check up on what is new in their life. You will want to make sure that you are keeping in touch with him but in a classy way. Calling all the time and making a nuisance of you is only going to make yourself look too needy. This can actually be embarrassing for you.

Learn how to cut back and give the recommended space that you both need when you need it. This is the only way to keep your self-respect and not make him feel like you are not giving him room to breath.

5) He Does Not Have To Go With You Wherever You Go.

It is ok to spend time together, but you need to know when to do things on your own. Spending time together and doing things that you love is important however, you do not have to drag him along when he does not want to come.

Ask him once but do not force him to do something that he is not interested in. of course you need him to spend time doing things that you like with you but you do not need to make it happen all the time. There are ways to connect with your man and not drive him crazy by annoying him with the little things that he does not want to do.

Last but not least, do not constantly tell him what to do. When you are constantly telling him what to do and how to do it, you may in fact be insulting him and making him feel almost like a child. This is going to be a degrading experience for him and it is not something that you want to happen.

Give him the respect that you would want for yourself. This is the best way to keep things moving in the right direction and not making yourself seem like you are attached to him at the hip.

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Wednesday, May 02, 2007

French Kiss 101- Learning How to French Kiss

Kissing is one of the best ways to show affection to a loved one. It is great way to start and end the day being kissed passionately. This is also the key in maintaining an intimate relationship. This is why learning how to French kiss is something very important to people who have not experienced it yet.

The French Kiss

There are different kinds of kisses that people will share. There is the kiss on the cheek that is quite common in most communities. People also do the Eskimo kisses. The air kiss is also one way of showing you care to friends.

Learning how to French kiss is a more intimate gesture. This is something that you can only share with your love one. This is not to be taken lightly. The French kiss happens the moment the mouth of two persons touch, involving some tongue action. The tongue moves in and out of the mouth as the partners share the intimate moment.

It is very important learning how to French kiss well because it will tell a lot about the sexual compatibility of the partners. It can also make or break a relationship. It is difficult to get kissed again when the French kiss is done very badly. Thus, learning how to French kiss will help a lot.

Learning How to French Kiss

Keep in mind that learning how to French kiss will not come easily if you merely think of how the tongue moves. They say that it is even difficult to practice on this one. However you can keep in mind a few tips that will help you prepare for your real French kiss.

1. Practice Alone

Some people try practicing alone when learning how to French kiss. This will not equip you with the necessary experience. Some even find this embarrassing. However, it can be helpful in preparing yourself for that moment.

2. Ask Your Partner

It is best to ask your partner or love one. Tell him or her that you have not really done this yet. This can be one way for the two of you to explore things together or your partner can lead you throughout. By doing this, you can test the waters in learning how to French kiss without the worries that your partner might think of you as a complete failure.

3. The Element of Love

Keep in mind that the French kiss is a passionate act. You cannot expect learning how to French kiss successfully unless you feel love and affection to the partner. Sharing a kiss with tongue action requires giving yourself up to a certain extent. Your partner will be able to tell on how much you can give through the kiss. Thus, do not expect to learn how to French kiss easily if you or your partner do not feel any love chemistry.

4. Read Each Other

Learning how to French kiss also involves some rhythm and synchrony. You and your partner have to read each other as you kiss. This means reading the body language to know what to do. For example, you cannot constantly do the tongue action. You have to feel if your partner wants to kiss your lips, then you stick with that. Once he or she moves closer then you can read this as a desire to share a French kiss.

5. Relax and Enjoy

Finally, you have to relax and enjoy this intimate moment. You might be scared on how you will do on your French kiss. However, you cannot keep thinking of such things or else you might hold back. You have to be comfortable to be able to give a good kiss. Just go with the flow of your feelings and desire.

Learning how to French kiss is an art. It is a good thing to learn as you share this passionate moment with your love one. Nothing compares to having that perfect French kiss.

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