What Do You Want From a Relationship, (and How Will it Make a Difference?)

We set goals for ourselves at times and never consider the outcome of achieving those goals. Some goals become so important that we spend an entire lifetime achieving them, and in the end, what have we really achieved? Therefore, it is important to ask this fundamental question when we achieve our goal: "How has this changed me?"

Did accomplishing your goal make you feel good, or more secure? Perhaps achieving the goal freed you from some kind of servitude or mundane existence that prohibited you from doing what you would really love to do. But are you really freer when you, for example, find Mr. or Ms. Right, finally retire from that job you have put up with all these years, or finished your novel, or painted your masterpiece? Has anything inside of you changed?

If it hasn't, except for that very brief whiff of fresh air when your goal is accomplished, then your passing freedom will be reduced to servitude once more, as your mind falls into predictable habits formed over a lifetime. There will be the next relationship, job, or book, or painting, and your new pursuit will without doubt become a prison no different from that which you have struggled so long and hard to escape. This is because you haven't made a fundamental change in the way your mind works, and your mind works out of fear, fear of the way things are. We can never be satisfied.

This is the mind's habit, protecting you from this moment where we live, and it can't change its habits by accomplishing goals; it can only change its habits by a complete and utter shake-up. Without this restructuring, all goals will be followed by more goals, endlessly, because the mind will never find its solace in accomplishing. Only when accomplishing ends, and the mind becomes stilled and all accepting, is there the possibility of a reformation of the mind.

This reformation can happen as the result of a serious accident, a severe illness, or unconditional love where your are mysteriously transformed, and where all of your old patterns and values suddenly become refined simply because the mind lost control for a moment. For a moment, you were just there with reality, nothing more, and that transitory experience changed you forever. It's not something you planned, or expected, life just took over for a second, and now you find yourself almost on a different planet.

Then you might wonder what on earth you were thinking in your old life, and how you can now see, and before you were blind – and all because of an accident of some kind. But what if we could make this fundamental change in our minds that would free us without an accident or illness or sometimes fleeting relationship? What if we could have the insight and awareness of a star child, or of an indigo child, or of an enlightened sage? How do they think? How do they reason and interact with the many circumstances of life? What if there were ways to attain, for ourselves, this new consciousness and awareness without the bother of an accident, illness, tenuous relationship, or without the trouble of dying and being reborn again?

But how?

Five Helpful Tips To Make Online Dating Successful

Online dating is becoming more popular in society. It's become the same as real-life dating. Sometimes it is very exciting to meet somebody online. Currently, online dating expands the possibility to find the right person, no matter where you live. It has allowed people to fully express themselves to others and stay comfortable. But you have to be careful and wise when making online dating decisions.

Here is the list of seven powerful tips that will make your online dating effective, safe, and successful.

1. Provide information only when you think it is necessary.

Someone first starts by introducing himself. Remember, you don't know the person that you will meet well enough yet. You know how actual live dating goes.

The online dating process is practically the same as in real life. In real life, you don't run around and offer people your full name, address, telephone number, and e-mail address.

In online dating, tell only the information that it is safe to give. At the same time the information that you realize should be enough for people to build an opinion about you.

2. Be truthful.

No matter if it's online or in real life, we must be honest. It's much easier to be truthful than watch your back all the time for everything we can say about ourselves that's not true.

From the beginning, tell any of your potential dates the truth and it will be easier to have good, healthy relationships in the future. Of course, don't forget to follow the common sense. Remember, you don't know your date very well yet.

3. Request a photograph.

There can be a situation in which a person with whom you are communicating online with isn't describing himself, but another person, or nobody at all.

Sometimes, you might create a person's image in your head based on the description that he provides you. That image can be far from how that person actually looks in real life. To save yourself disappointment just ask for a picture.

Of course, people will provide you with their best picture, and possibly even with the image of how you think they would look. Know with whom you are speaking and have additional information about the person that you meet.

4. Be careful

When you are setting a meeting for the first time with that person that you met online, make sure that it will be in some open public place. It is helpful to have people around if something goes wrong. Make sure that your friends or relatives know where you are going to be and at what time you are planning on coming back home.

Don't be dependent on your date. Have your own transportation, so you are free to leave when you need to. Make sure that your friends all have possible information about your date.

5. Pay for yourself

If a man buys movie tickets and wants to pay the whole check at the restaurant, most likely he is a gentlemen. But, there are those that wait for something in return for that free meal. Remember this is your first date with that person and you don't know him well enough yet.

You must be dependent, and not feel obligated so split all expenses. But if you like the person and don't want to hurt his feelings, tell him that you will allow him to cover the whole bill next time.